Mama's Baby..

It’s funny how when a man doesn't take care of his children or pay child support he is a deadbeat.  There are stories written movies made laws passed that say that a man has a responsibility from birth to take care of his children financially even if he isn't going to be there for them physically.  He gets visitation rights, and when he doesn’t show up for his visits with his children it goes to the judge.  When he doesn't pay his support, he goes to jail and loses his driver’s license.  When he has MORE kids and doesn’t take care of them either, he turns around and doesn’t work, therefore giving an excuse for not supporting his children.  The judges and lawyers do what they can within the limits of the law to make a man do what he is supposed to do for his children down to months of incarceration trying to teach him a lesson.  It usually doesn’t work, he gets out and STILL doesn’t take care of his kids.  You’ve heard it all before…right? 

What about when it’s the mother? What about when you have a woman that has a child or two from a man, decides that she doesn’t want to be with this man for whatever reason, leaves, and leaves him with his kids.  Shouldn’t she have to pay child support too?  When she doesn’t, why isn’t she a deadbeat?  She is pushing something hot..$300 worth of weave down her back shacked up with a hustler or a dope boy (because to me only ghetto hood trash would stay fly and not take care of their children) and constantly telling her children NO to coming to her house, spending the night, or anything that entails her spending any money.  Yet she is free to walk the streets worry free of court dates and jail time.  Just like there are men that don’t take care of their children, there are also single fathers out there raising their children by themselves.  They may be few and far between, but they exist.  

There are men with and without college degrees doing what they have to do to keep a roof over their heads and the heads of their kids.  Some of them struggle just as much as a single mother does trying to balance work/school/home, pay bills and still keep their kids looking decent.  There are men that do laundry and change the sheets, do all the cooking and the cleaning, learn to do ponytails and clean up vomit.  Ones that have changed and paid for EVERY single pamper their child has ever worn; ones that wipe the tears of their teenage daughters after her first heartbreak, and explain the emotions of a woman, when his teenage son doesn’t understand why his girlfriend cries. There are men…that raise their kids alone.  What I don’t understand is why the courts don’t go after these deadbeat ass broads the way they will a man.  Why does it seem like a woman is given leniency when it comes to providing for her children?  Aside from that, how do you as a woman, and able bodied woman, do nothing for your children?  No Christmas, no birthdays, no special occasions... no school clothes, school supplies, nothing.  You push them off on their father, don’t spend any time with them, and shun all of their efforts to want to be with you. 

You...young lady…are the definition of a Lame Ass Bitch

You are just as responsible for raising these kids as their father is.  If you can’t do it financially, fine.  Being there emotionally and physically for your child is FREE and truth be told that means more to them than anything else.  Bad mouthing their father in front of them only makes you look like the bitter lame ass hood squirrel you are.  If their father is such a no good nothing then 1) why did you lay down with him (because he didn't JUST become a no good nothing) and 2) why are you not taking on the responsibility to make up for what he’s not doing? I will never understand any woman that doesn't do what she has to and sacrifice what she must in order to make sure her kids are taken care of.

Then these broads turn around and have more kids.  The NEW baby gets the sun the moon and the stars while her other children are eating oodles of noodles every night.  Do you think your child doesn't recognize favoritism?  People always say that children need their fathers.  Children need their mothers too.  Girls learn how to love themselves and be loved by others by watching their mother. A boy first love is always his mother, and she is usually his resource for the definition of a good woman.  If you choose to run the streets behind shiftless men that mean you no good, how do you expect your daughter to love herself any more than you do?  If you aren't there to nurture your boys, when they finally fall in love, one of two things is going to happen.  Either they will love a woman that treats them like shit, or they will love a woman in the unhealthiest way, and treat HER like shit.  That will be YOUR fault.  Your kids won’t know any better because you aren't there for them.  This same woman will say ‘well, I can’t teach a boy how to be a man’.  Yes you can.  My President was raised by a single white woman.  She raised a GOOD black man.  There is no reason you can’t do it too.  If you choose not to, you shouldn’t be surprised when your girls don’t want to be anything like you, and your boys don’t want to marry anyone like you.