No Matter How Much Sugar….

A lot of times when you meet a man, by nature, they only tell you pieces of their story.  They will tell you they have kids but not how many baby mothers.  They will tell you they have kids, but not that they are still SLEEPING with their baby mother.  They will tell you that they work, but not that it’s at McDonald's.  They will tell you that they drive, but not that it’s a friend’s car.  Sometimes they sugar coat the truth to get what they are looking for, and since good men seem to be so hard to come by when it sounds good you go for it. Most of the things you are told, once you find out the truth they are things you can work through.  You can encourage him to get a better job and you can help him find and purchase his own car.  But there is one detail…one element…one story…that is the same every time: I’m still married, and we live together, and but we aren't “together”.  I sleep on the couch.

THIS IS ALWAYS BULLSHIT

Most of the time a man will tell you this because he wants to sleep with you.  He tells you what you want to hear to make you feel like you are giving him something he isn't getting at home.  He tells you all of the things he and his wife have been through and tries to make you think that she is insanely ungrateful for all of the wonderful things he has done for her and all of the good times they shared.  He tries to make you feel like ALL of those things are on the table for you.  While he is doing this you begin to go above and beyond to show him that you are the better choice.  That you would never do the things she does and that he would be happier and have the “wife” of his dreams with you.  You need to know that there is a 97% chance that this is NEVER going to happen.

Men Don’t Leave Their Wives.  Understand what I am saying.  If you accept that he is married and that he still lives with his wife and you believe he sleeps on the couch and you accept that you can’t talk to him after a certain time because he is at home…why WOULD he leave his wife?  You are a mistress.  There is a chance that his wife knows about you and doesn't care, but more than likely she doesn't.  She is usually unaware of the “problems” in her marriage because to her they are non-existent.  The man that you love, that is selling you a bridge in Brooklyn, is cheating on his wife with you.  Why do you think that all the places you go with him are so discreet?  You think he’s being romantic?  What is wrong with you?  He is HIDING you from everyone that knows he’s married, everyone that knows his wife, everyone that knows his parents, everyone.  Of course you met his friends.  His friends are going to keep his secret and believe that having mistress is ok just like he does.  He is NEVER going to marry you.  9 times out of 10 the only way you will end up with that man is if his wife puts his ass out and he has nowhere to go.  This doesn't mean you win.  This means you get something that someone else didn't want. No matter how good a used car looks on the outside, someone else got rid of that shit for a reason.  I will run GREAT for the first few months, and then every time you turn around, you are at the mechanic crying about what a good car you thought you had… better than every car before it…bigger engine…smoother ride.  Not So Much.

Don’t set yourself up for disappointment.  A man that lives in the house with his wife despite their issues is still living as man and wife with this woman.  Anything and everything he does with you shows his lack of respect for you, his wife, his marriage and women in general.  This the way he is and he is NOT going to change for you.  No matter how much sugar you  pour on shit…Don’t waste time waiting for someone else’s husband to treat you like a wife.