These days, being a single mother is
as normal as the street getting wet when it rains. Unfortunately it’s also normal for women to
behave like a “Babymuva”. For those of
you that are unaware let me enlighten you. A “Babymuva”...simply put…is usually
an angry woman that can’t get over the fact that she and the father of her
child aren't together. She is usually
jealous and bitter about any and everything he does. She makes a scene at every given opportunity
and tells the entire world that he is NO GOOD despite what he does or doesn't do for his children. She will usually
demand that any time he spends with his child involves her, money and/or sex,
and when he refuses, she goes on a tirade about how he doesn't do anything for his
children. Then you have the ones that
KEEP a man (other than the father of her child) and have that child call every
man she is with “daddy” or “uncle”. She
gets child support, and spends it on hair, nails, and shoes and tells everyone
“he only gives me $XXX.XX” every two weeks WTF am I supposed to do with
that”. Some babymuvas will tell you over
and over that they left him. That they
are not together because she doesn't want to be with him and she is usually
fine with not being with her child(rens) father, UNTIL HE GETS A
GIRLFRIEND. That is when the random any
time of day calls start because she thinks she is entitled to call whenever she
wants because she has his baby. The
girlfriend is immediately a bitch, she is immediately ugly, and he IMMEDIATELY
can’t see his children. She makes pick-ups
and drop offs impossible and everything is an argument.
The best way to avoid this ladies; Always
Be Prepared!!!
Just like if you are going to move
into a new apartment or a house, you will not sign a lease for an apartment you
can’t afford ALONE; even if you have a Significant Other. Despite you and a man being together before
and after conception, make sure that you are willing to raise your child alone
if you have to. That doesn't mean that
you throw in his face during every argument “I don’t need you”. It just means that you will not be devastated
and use your child to get back at him if the relationship doesn't work. No matter what you do, you cannot change your
child’s DNA and NOTHING you do will change the fact that you have a child from
this man. It IS hard, and you usually
DON’T get a break. However, if you keep
the peace with him he will come and get his kids, even if it’s for a few hours. Do you know what you can DO in a few hours by
yourself? How about you start with an
uninterrupted shower!
Even if he is a tool and does NOTHING for your kids, your being nasty to him is NOT going to make him be a better father. All it does is cause you stress give you wrinkles and make the situation worse than it already is. It is a waste of energy. Just because you have his child does NOT mean he is going to be with YOU forever. Take all of that anger and go to the gym, run, work that baby weight off if you still have it. Focus on YOU. Focus on being a great mother. Focus on building a support system so that you don’t NEED him. Thank him for your blessing and his DNA and move on. Don’t waste a bunch of time trying to keep someone that doesn't want to be kept. If he did, you would be together.
Don’t be a BabyMuva.
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