Learn To Let Go!

So you get married; you have a baby the relationship doesn’t work out, and either you leave or he leaves.  The institution of marriage isn’t respected the way it used to be.  Nowadays, people get married just to say they have a husband or a wife.  Not to be a team and live a life together and WORK THROUGH whatever issues may come about.  Instead they get divorced and brag about having an ex husband or wife and what an asshole/bitch they are.

Then there is my favorite type of exes.  The ones that are still married because one or the other doesn’t want to “give you” a divorce.  Explain to me what you are holding on to?  If you and this other person have decided that you cannot live as husband and wife, that they do not want to be with you and they have moved on, what is the REASON for staying married?  Do you know how crazy that makes you look to fight tooth and nail for someone that is blatantly telling you to beat your feet? If you and your husband break up and he moves out, gets his own place, sees the kids when he is supposed to, gets a girlfriend and moves on with his life, CLEARLY that means he doesn’t want to “work on ur marriage”.  At this point you should be over it and you should have moved on.  Instead you are doing everything in your power to make his life more difficult.  Understand that this only makes the situation worse and cements his decision.  If this man wanted to be with you, he would not be in a relationship with someone else.  Period.  He has his OWN place, pays separate rent and is in the bed with someone else on a regular basis.  These are not the makings of a husband.

Ladies you need to let go and move on.  It is tiring and exhausting to fight for someone that doesn’t want to be with you, and you look like the psychotic needy disgruntled ex-employee.  If you have children, the only thing you need to do is make sure that man does what he needs to do for his kids, and if he doesn’t either you go to the courts or you do it yourself.  Do you think that you NOT giving him a divorce is going to make him leave the woman he is with?  And while we are on the topic, let me make this clear.  Unless the woman he is sleeping with is your friend, or someone that knows you, she is NOT, I repeat NOT a home wrecker.  The only person in the equation that owes you anything or needs to explain anything to you is your husband. It is HE that needs to respect your marriage, not her.  You need to let it go.  Do you think you can’t get another man?  You can, and you can probably marry another one in the space of 6 months if having a husband is that important to you.